Monday, November 17, 2008

This changes everything

Mom called me Saturday morning. The conversation started as most do, with her asking how I am, followed by a little chitchat. Then her tone changed, and she said, “I have to tell you something.” I immediately knew it wasn’t good, and I was right.

Mom has breast cancer.

I don’t know very many details yet, only that she had a biopsy that came back positive for this scary disease. As you can imagine, this is a difficult thing for our family, so I'm writing to ask for your support.

If you’re a praying person, please include my dear Mom in your prayers. Prayers to God, Buddha, Allah, or just the universe in general…we’re not biased.

If you have first-hand experience with this disease (and I pray that you don’t), your advice (in comments, please; I don’t really feel like talking right now) would be very much appreciated.

I know this goes without saying, but I’m going to say it anyway: life is fragile. Hug your loved ones a little tighter today and let them know what they mean to you. You never know when your phone might ring and change everything.


Robert said...

This is not good. My thoughts are with you and your mother. I hope that everything will be okay.

Sabina said...

Meg, So sorry to hear the news! Your mom is in our prayers. My mom is a breast cancer survivor of almost 20 years now. My cousin just finished up treatment last month, and the prognosis is good. Please let us know if there is anything you need. Love you, sista!

Unknown said...

I am so very sorry to learn of your news Megan, I will be keeping you, your mom & family in my thoughts and prayers.
(((hugs))) for you my friend.

Latisha said...

several woman in my family are breast cancer survivors. I think the best thing you can do is to have positive thinking. Do not let your mind wander into your darkest thoughts. Your Mother is alive and living. I don't know you or your faith, but let the Lord lift you and your family up. There is immeasurable power in prayer.

Here are a few scriptures to bring you peace & strength. I will keep you and your Mother in my prayers.

So do not fear, for I am with you;
do not be dismayed, for I am your God.
I will strengthen you and help you;
I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.
Isaiah 41:10

Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.
John 14:27

Blessed is the man who perseveres under trial, because when he has stood the test, he will receive the crown of life that God has promised to those who love him.
James 1:12

again I don't know your faith, so I apologize if this offends you.

Anonymous said...

Megan, I'm thinking of you and your mom. I'll be praying for you all.
--hugs, teri

Emily Call said...

Megan, I am thinking of you and your Mom. Hugs and I am wishing the best for your family and especially your Mom. -Emily

Lain said...

Lots of prayers and hugs for you both. You are right -- life is fragile. It is so easy to take it for granted.

Many of us will be with you over the upcoming weeks, months and years. Do not feel you are alone!

Anonymous said...

oh megan!! i will be thinking about you and praying for you!! sending good vibes you and your mom's way!!

Bonnie said...

I'll pray because it works. My mom is a breast cancer survivor of 7 years now. Have your good cry now and then have your good cry later. You need to do it. Smile Positive Hugs - lots of good thoughts if you can... and pray pray pray!

ronee said...

i love you..and i wish you and mom strength! you will be in my prayers!

Erin said...

I'm so sorry, Megan. Both my MIL and my aunt are breast cancer surviors, I know how scary it can be. I'll be praying for your Mom.

Anonymous said...

I'm here, Meg. Just holler.

Unknown said...

Oh no...I am so sorry!
Thinking of you and your Mom.
(((Big Hugs)))

Life Full of Sunflowers said...

Megan, I am so sorry to hear this about your mom. Please know that my thoughts and prayers are with you both. Love to you - Janet

Unknown said...

I am so very sorry to hear this.
My advice would be to remember to take deep breaths.
And your mother and family will be in my thoughts and prayers.

marnie said...

megan, my sweet tenderhearted friend. i ache for you and can't imagine. i pray for your peace of mind and heart as well as your mama's health. oh, honey...

Anonymous said...

Meg-I was a shocked as you were to hear the news. Peggy is not only my mother in law, but the closest thing I have to a Mom on this side of the Mason Dixon. Whatever it takes we will get through this as a family. I have asked everyone I know to pray for her or put her on their prayer list. Peggy is a strong person who is determined to beat this while still maintaining her signature sense of humor.


Unknown said...

Meg, hey babe. My gran called and told me. I didn't want to bother you yet. Let me know what you need, okay? You're my sister mare than you know who, so we have to stick together! love you -vicki

Ms. Maxwell said...

Reading this post brought back a flood of memories for me. You'll feel everything in a more magnified way (let the feelings happen). Treatment will sometimes be worse than the disease (in the long run, it's not). Some days you'll want to scream in anger to the universe (do it).

The only advice I can offer is to keep a journal, a small notebook, with you at all times. Capture your thoughts and questions -- both for the doctors and for your mom. I guarantee your mind will go to those dark places and you'll end up wanting intensely to get an answer to something that seems obscure or trivial. The resulting conversation will be a treasure.

Thoughts, prayers and love will be with you, my friend.

Brandy J. said...

We just want to add our thoughts, prayers, and well wishes to everyone elses. Love you.

Kim Mraz said...

Prayers and Positive thoughts are being sent your Mom's way (and of course for you and your loved ones too) What a very scary news and I pray that you will all have the love and support that will help you through this difficult time. I will be thinking about you sweet friend